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Dating widower problems

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Ask questions, listen carefully, and don’t come to conclusions about the deceased spouse or the previous relationship.Blessings...~JDA**Please note that all blog entries and book excerpts are intellectual property, copyrighted by me, and are not available for reprint without my permission.Thank you.** Besides penning the self-help guide "PAST: Perfect! Insights From One Woman's Journey As The Wife of a Widower" Julie is also the author of the illsutrated parenting humour book, "Parentally Insane: Insights From The Edge..Midlife!For some widow(er)s, a new sexual relationship is especially intimidating.Furthermore, your date might feel a little lost in some areas.The deceased spouse wasn’t perfect; comparing yourself to an image of a saint isn’t fair to either of you.

If the new relationship is a healthy one, it will develop into a unique one, independent of the person who came before.

Remember that there may be in-laws and children with opinions about the widow(er) dating again.

While the person may be ready to date, their family might take some time to adjust to the idea.

The Comparison Game It’s a reasonable concern, worrying that a widow(er) will compare the next relationship to the one that came to a tragic end.

Keep in mind that it’s human nature to compare every relationship to a previous one, but that not every comparison is a bad one.

Some are ready to date again shortly after their partner dies. What’s perhaps most important is that the widow(er) is comfortable with the timeline and isn’t reentering the dating world because of the outside pressure to “get back out there.” Not Ready? For a widow(er) to be ready to enter a new relationship, he/she has to feel comfortable looking past their grief and focusing on loving a new individual.