Dating someone you actually like
At that point you’ve reduced your customer to nothing more than a cash dispenser, or, since we’re talking about objectifying a woman, a sex dispenser. At the purely practical level of attracting women, it’s stupid. You and some friends decide to check out a new gay bar that you’ve heard has a lot of hot guys.
While this is just a thought experiment, the facts that underpin it are very real. 166 pounds), and he carries less body fat (18 percent vs.For Americans over age 20, the average man is five inches taller than the average woman (5’9″ vs. 24 percent), so he’s got about twice the upper-body strength (what he’d use to pick her up) and twice the grip strength (what he’d use to hold her down).An average woman is as physically vulnerable to an average guy as a big guy (6’0″, 190 pounds) would be to the average NFL lineman (6’5″, 310 pounds)—which is to say, Most dating advice to guys fails at this first hurdle.Here’s the thing, though: when women say, “Don’t objectify me,” they don’t mean “You’re never allowed to look at my boobs or notice my butt.” Actually, they kind of like their boobs and butts, and hope you do, too, if you’re a good guy and you : a savvy customer evaluating your products (traits) and ads (proofs) to see if they’ll add value to her life.If you want to guarantee mating failure, all you have to do is think of her as nothing more than an inanimate object—as an “8” or a “9,” as a simplistic robot with a set of “triggers” and “hot buttons” to manipulate. You’re single, it’s Friday night after a long week and you’ve decided to go out and have some fun.doesn’t know that: when she meets you, you could be Jack Ryan, Jack Sparrow or Jack the Ripper. Even more terrifying is the fact that, over the course of her life, the biggest threats to her You need to understand how women evaluate your qualities and how they perceive the status, danger, opportunities and threats that you could present.
The better you learn to see these things from women’s points of view, the less unattractive you will be to them and the less confused, resentful and frustrated you will be by how they respond to you.
We have been working with young single men in our capacities as educators, public figures and authors for more than 30 years.
In that time, the most common question we’ve gotten from guys centers on how to increase their confidence with women.
Go to a sports bar in any major city or college town on game day, and invariably you will run into a crew of gorgeous young women in skin-tight, cutoff referee outfits or school jerseys walking around, selling shot specials or beer buckets.
All of them shamelessly use beautiful, scantily clad women with big boobs, tight asses and long legs as the vehicles to deliver their message. The problem from a mating perspective (besides the obvious ethical one) is that normal women feel this objectification acutely.
These guys are all as tall as NBA players, as muscular as NFL linebackers and as sexually aggressive as a felon on his first night out of jail.