Boys and dating
Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.
Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man.And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers."Parents and pediatricians may underestimate how common dating violence is, and how often boys are victims," said Swahn, who was not involved in the study. But the new study conflicts with those findings, said lead researcher Dennis Reidy, of the division of violence prevention at the U. Regardless, he added, the study points out that boys can be victims, too."We don't want to get locked into the mindset that boys are always the perpetrators and girls are always the victims," Reidy said.When it came to psychological abuse, 29 percent of boys and almost 34 percent of girls said they'd been victimized at least three times.
Slightly more than 14 percent of boys and 12 percent of girls said they'd been sexually victimized that many times.
The findings are based on more than 1,100 kids ages 11 to 17 who were surveyed about a wide range of dating violence.
They were asked not only about physical abuse, but also how often they'd been sexually victimized—including having a boyfriend or girlfriend pressure them to have sex, or spread "sexual rumors" about them.
"I'd be cautious about interpreting the age-related findings," she said.
"You need to follow the same kids over time to see whether their behavior changes." Reidy said more research is needed to confirm the current findings, which were published online Jan. But for now, he said, adults need to be aware that dating violence affects girls and boys—and it starts at an early age.
The findings on sexual victimization might sound particularly surprising, Reidy said.