Boundaries in a christian dating relationship
You need the brakes put on in a big way, which might even mean putting this relationship on pause for a season while you each nurture purity of heart through discipleship and prayer.
We've discussed sexual temptation and how we want this to be a God-honoring relationship.Our desires make us sin, and when sin is finished with us, it leaves us dead” (CEV).So, yes, you should be very concerned about where you two are headed.I shared a few points from Joshua Harris' book , and I requested that I want to save my kiss for marriage only. What I'm worried about is our physical relationship and our sexual drive.We've hugged for three minutes, kissed on the cheek or side of my lips, held hands sometimes, stroking, and I realized this makes me very nervous and excited.Your desires are about to drag you off and trap you.
From what I can tell, not only are you nurturing purity, rather, you are feeding lust. You need more than the goal of purity; you need a plan for it.
Can you give me some suggestions how we can love each other so much but also help each other not be sexually tempted?
How can I discuss this healthily and openly with him so that both of us won't get tempted after the discussion?
You can be assured that it will happen, but only if you pursue it with your whole heart.
Don’t be foolish; make the difficult changes you need to make now and enjoy the great fruit that will come from good choices in the not too distant future.
God knows you best and He knows your partner best and if things are falling into place with your relationship, family and friends, you are both happy with the relationship and there are no warning bells, then there should be no need to test the relationship further, should there?