Book about black women dating outside their race
“I just want to lay these issues out there, and once they’re there, you usually find that they’re not as scary as you thought,” he says.As one of Banks’s interviewees put it, “Being unhappily married to a black man does nothing for the race.
Though it might more accurately be called, “Why Middle-Class Black Women Should Marry White,” it was an anecdote that got Banks thinking.You fear no one is going to worship your powerless and insecure self. I don’t care how much Black men say, “I love Black women.” Years of nonreciprocated behavior from Black men shows their lack of credibility. And finally end the mass abandonment of Black children by Black men.You are worried that, that non Black brother next to you is looking pretty fine to the sistas. If you don’t, you are full of it and are complicit in the continued victimization of Black women and children.A controversial new book suggests that interracial marriage may be a solution for middle-class African-American women who can’t find a suitable black husband.Jessica Bennett talks to author Ralph Richard Banks.Why can’t I still be a strong black woman and be married to a white man?
This may be the last remaining taboo in our supposedly colorblind society.
“I’m trying to get to a point where I accept that marriage may never happen for me.”Her situation may not be ideal, but Audrey may as well be poster child for a breed of African-American women like her: educated, successful, family-minded, yet persistently single, on a seemingly endless hunt for a middle-class black man to fit into her family portrait.
But in a culture where the black male middle-class is shrinking, if not already invisible—one in four black men will end up in jail; fewer than half graduate from high school—Audrey is stuck in the center of what a new book calls the “African-American marriage decline.”Sociologists have long lamented the marriage crisis among the black poor: African-American women are half as likely as white women to be married, and twice as likely never to marry. : How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone, Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks takes on the black middle-class: women who are outpacing their male peers to a degree more pronounced than in any other racial group.
There’s just one thing missing from Audrey’s life: a husband.
“At this point, I thought I’d be married with children,” she says.
You are scared because that non Black man wants to make your sista his wife. Let this post be a warning to you because brother you got two choices.