Having sex online dating
I stood silently as the whole thing started to unravel. They didn’t really know each other, all they knew were the superficial details that anyone else can be privy to.
He never texted her earlier than 11pm and while he was nice and sweet and all that when they hung out, all he wanted was to fool around (and sometimes order in food and fool around). He hadn’t shown any level of investment (I know going on three Saturday night dates in a row with a guy can feel like he’s investing, but it’s not so).You don’t often see a woman plotting ways to sleep with many men and wiggle out of any sort of commitment, or a man trying to figure out how to get a girl to just commit and want only him.Just as there is a stigma against women who sleep with a lot of men, there is a stigma against men who are super into commitment and invest way too soon.A close friend of mine recently met an amazing guy on an online dating site.He was smart, successful, and a dead ringer for Bradley Cooper. They exchanged a few flirty messages and he asked her to go out on a Saturday night.They had an amazing time on the date, they continued to message, and he asked her out for the following Saturday early in the week.
Another nice date with pleasant conversation and enjoying each other’s company (and some passionate making out) and he again reserved her for the following Saturday night.
You can blame it on biology and a man’s innate need to spread his seed, or on today’s culture which deems men who sleep with lots of women studs (and women who sleep with lots of men sluts), but it’s just the way it is.
As such, women have control when it comes to sex and can decide whether to give in or not, while men have the control when it comes to commitment.
They were still in contact; he would still text her messages full of sexual innuendos.
But sometimes he didn’t text for days at a time, or would just drop off mid-convo when she asked him about something non sex-related. She slept with him before they developed any sort of a real connection.
Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships.